FILLING IN YOUR MISSING PIECES
The key to having the health, love, money, ease, success and fulfillment you want
A be-book by Olga Sheean
Published in Canada in 2012 by Inside Out Media at Smashwords
Copyright © Olga Sheean 2012
All rights reserved. No parts of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into, a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means (mechanical, electronic, photocopying, recording or otherwise) without the prior permission of the author or publisher.
ISBN: 978-0-9738222-9-8
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About the Be-book series
Be-books are designed to enable you to be powerful, be creative, be yourself and be fulfilled. They are for those who are committed to mastering their minds and their bodies, as well as their relationships, careers, health and finances. They provide practical tools for transforming your internal dynamics and your external circumstances, generating sustainable positive results, and breaking free of chronic negative cycles.
The techniques and processes used in these be-books are based on a proprietary framework that is the intellectual property of Olga Sheean. In using this be-book, you agree not to use this material for commercial purposes or to reproduce/copy/share it without the prior permission of the author.
How to use this be-book
This be-book presents five key missing pieces: acceptance, trust, sharing/receiving, self-expression and respect. There are many other essential formative qualities that you may wish to build or enhance in yourself, such as validation, commitment, connection, support, intimacy and integrity, but addressing these first five qualities will create profound positive changes in your life. Each one is defined in practical terms and followed by a series of questions that will enable you to see how, up to now, you may not have been practising this healthy, magnetic quality in your life. The second part of each section presents practical ways in which you can start to more fully and consciously demonstrate these qualities in your everyday life, so that you then automatically attract these same qualities from others, in all areas of your life.
How your subconscious works
Transforming your negative subconscious programming is the most powerful way to create what you want in life. To do this effectively, it’s important to understand how the subconscious mind works. Our subconscious is very magnetic, and it causes us to attract very particular dynamics, partners, situations, challenges and circumstances in accordance with how it has been programmed. You may argue that life just happens—that it’s random, unpredictable and governed by outside forces such as the economy, other people and circumstances. But when you start working with your negative programming—all those limiting beliefs, fears, insecurities, expectations and projections that you absorb in your formative years—you begin to see that your subconscious is your most powerful ally in creating the love and the life that you want ...and that it has been running the show all along. Its purpose is to bring you challenges and scenarios trigger your deepest issues, so that you can, with enough awareness, discover, heal, express and empower yourself, fulfilling your creative potential and finding meaningful fulfillment in life. If you choose to ignore its impact and purpose in your life, you will be setting yourself up for a lifetime of stress, struggle, hard work, heartache and/or financial deficiency. At the very least, you are likely to have unfulfilling relationships—and you may think that this is normal and inevitable, because we are all so steeped in dysfunction that we cannot see it for what it is.
Since your subconscious represents the largest and most powerful part of you, processing millions of bits of information every day (far more than your conscious mind), it makes sense to learn how to make it work for you in positive ways. Your ‘missing pieces’ represent one of the key components of your subconscious programming, and learning how to fill them in is one of the most empowering things you can do—for yourself and for the world.
Identifying the missing pieces in your life
There are certain essential formative qualities (such as acceptance, respect, affection, validation, support and encouragement) that we need as children in order to be complete and self-sufficient, with a strong sense of self and healthy self-esteem. Acceptance, respect, encouragement, etc are an expression of love, and only love can give us a sense of security and belonging in the world. If we fail to have these qualities cultivated in us at an early age, we fail to develop many of our innate traits or faculties and we become insecure and incomplete, with low self-worth and a lack of true direction. Worthiness is the key to having what we want in life, and if we have low self-worth (as almost all of us do), it cramps our style and keeps us stuck. Our self-worth determines how much love, money, ease success or fulfillment we attract in life, and if any of these areas is deficient, it’s because we subconsciously believe ourselves to be unworthy. This causes us to work hard to compensate for it and to try to earn the acceptance, approval or love that we don’t believe we are unconditionally or automatically entitled to. This means that we start speaking and acting in ways that demonstrate low self-worth, creating cycles of diminishing returns. We end up living largely in reactive, survival mode, coping with life but never really thriving.
Your missing pieces:
- determine what circumstances and people you attract into your life;
- cause you to attract partners with the same missing pieces as you;
- distort/diminish your sense of self, creating insecurity and self-doubt;