Learn to Love Who You Are
In 7 Easy Steps
Published by Sarah Haywood at Smashwords
Copyright 2012 - Sarah Haywood - All rights reserved
Contact for Sarah: http://www.aspire2bfree.com
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Disclaimer
The techniques and advice described in this book represents the opinion of the author based on her experience. The author expressly disclaims any responsibility for any liability, loss or risk, personal or otherwise, which is incurred as a result of using any of the advice or recommendations suggested herein. If in any doubt, or if requiring medical advice, please contact the appropriate health professional.
Contents
Step 1 – Understanding Who You Are
Step 3 – Recognising How To Be True To YOU
Step 6 – Enjoying Just Loving YOU
Step 7 – Treat Every Day As If It Were Your Last
Introduction
As someone who has had many ups and downs in life when it comes to relationships, I decided to take a look at my life and realised that it was lack of love for myself that I had. I therefore set out to change this about my life and as a result have written these 7 easy steps to help you to achieve the same thing.
Many aspects of life are affected by the way we feel about ourselves. How we carry ourselves through our lives has an impact on those around us. How we react to situations we enter has an effect on others who are involved with us. So it is important that we wholly understand who we are and where we fit into the world so that the impact we have on it, can have the greatest and purest effect possible.
Many people walk around with their heads in the sand. They live in hope that other people around them will supply them with love and affection that will feed their soul, yet what love are they showing to themselves that nourishes who they are? Often love for the self is neglected and forgotten. Put to the bottom of the pile whilst fire fighting with people around us in our lives. Often because to show love and affection to another is much easier than it is to give to ourselves. Yet why is this so? How can it be so difficult to love the very person you are when it makes sense that it is important to love the very core of you, in order that you can love others truly from the heart?
This book is aimed at giving you 7 easy steps to release and let go of all the learnt behaviours and information you have received about yourself over the years and take yourself back to the basics of being you. To find your inner being so that you can learn to understand who you are and then learn to love the very person that is you. Without truly understanding who is you, it is impossible to love you wholly, for the only person you are loving is the person you have become as a result of the world that you live in now, which means that the love is only surface deep and does not run to the core of you.
However, it has to be said there is no point opening a book like this unless you have intentions of making changes in your life that will bring a positive outcome to you. This book is aimed at inviting those in who would truly like to find a way to make a core difference in their life that will then have an impact on all areas of their life and truly change it forever.
Enjoy the journey of discovering you
Step 1 – Understanding Who You Are
When you were born into this world you came into it with nothing but a mind that was pure and a heart that wanted to feel love and be loved. As you entered the world the impact of those people who brought you into it immediately had an effect on the thoughts and feelings that you had. In fact, this actually began from when you were being formed from within the womb.
As you have gone through your life many people and things will have had an impact on your thoughts and beliefs, so much so that you are nothing but a sponge which has absorbed the contents of the life that has been thrown at you. However, as you are reading this book you have come to a point in your life when you are starting to ask questions about who you are. When you are starting to realise that there is more to you than you know you have come to be and would like to reveal the real you so that you can learn to love that person and live the true life that you came on to the earth to lead.
For many love for the self is the last thing that they consider for it seems that there is always someone who is more deserving of such love. As your love is directed at another, your inner self becomes cold and neglected and sad. As sadness grows the path to true fulfilment goes cold too and the life that you end up leading is a far cry from the one you would like to have. So why is it that you have come to neglect yourself? What is it that is so bad about you that you feel you have to distract your love to another and forget about your own needs? It seems that society has led us to believe that to love yourself means to be vain and selfish and cannot possibly be more important than loving others around you. Yet, if you do not love yourself, how can you truly love another as you will always be feeding off of others to love you as you love them. Consequently, your life will have become one of pleasing others rather than considering yourself.
So how does one squeeze the sponge and truly let go of all the information and behaviours that have been soaked up into you? How do you go about recognising what thoughts are your own and what thoughts are those of others? How do you begin to truly connect to the person you call you? Well, it first of all needs you to take time to listen to yourself. To put time aside each day to clear the mind of anything that is going on and to truly listen to the inner you by listening to the breathing, your heart beat, your rhythm and understanding what makes you tick.
Practical
1. Find 15 minutes in your day to take yourself away.
2. Find a space that is likely to be undisturbed. Turn off any mobile phones and find a comfortable seat.
3. Sit comfortable and relax. Close your eyes. Put your feet firmly on the ground and your place your hands on your lap.
4. Concentrate on your breathing. Listen to your body as you breathe in and out. Feel the beat of your heart. Take 3 deep breaths.
5. If your mind starts to bring in thoughts, practice bringing yourself back to this moment. It can help to bring a picture into your vision. Try thinking of something simple. For example, a flower, a football, a golf ball, a butterfly or the sea – the choice is yours.
6. Sometimes, as you sit in this peaceful place, you will start to see colours or pictures or maybe you will just get a blank space. No matter what you see, the practice of staying in the moment and listening to you for 15 minutes a day will help to focus your mind on you.
7. If you feel you can maintain this for longer, then try adding a further 5 minutes every now and again until you manage to reach half an hour.
By taking time out of your day, you will begin to give yourself some importance and it will allow you to start focusing on what is important to you.