The Drinking Man’s Guide To Women
(and Divorce)
By
Patrick O’Cahir
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Foreword
The more I drank, the better she looked.
-John B. Daniels
Table of Contents
1. Communication
2. Our Brains are Different
3. The Female Sexual Strategy
4. Maternal Instinct
5. The Pursuit of Men
6. Fashion
7. Are Women Abusive to Men?
8. Penis Envy
9. Parental Influence
10. The Truth About Female Hormones
11.Advice on How to Survive Your Divorce
Foreword
This book is for men only. It bashes women. If you are not a man put the friggin’ book back on the shelf.
The next 75,000 words may get you through one of the most difficult times of your life. It is designed to help you understand that your divorce was her fault-not yours. It details the differences between men and women. Take a minute to laugh at these differences. They exist for a reason. Since most divorces are sought by women- you are not alone. There are many support groups that may help. But who wants to air their dirty laundry with a bunch of whining strangers? Reading this acerbic drivel also gives you an excuse to drink alone for a couple of weeks and lick your wounds. So what? At least you don’t have to drive home from a bar and risk a DUI.
Each chapter has suggestions for trying a new spirit and a new kind of beer. Do not try to read this book all at once! I suggest one chapter per night. First, being male, you do not have the attention span to attempt this feat. Second, you will be too plastered after each chapter to even turn the page.
So, get blitzed, but most of all, feel better that your divorce was not personal - it was biological. Like all women that file for divorce-she’s just another self serving bitch.
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Communication
Appetizer
One shot of Jim Beam Whiskey
Main Course
Molson Golden Ale
Men and women communicate differently. There is a reason for this behavior; one that has to do with the survival of the species or something like that. Who cares what the reason is? How many times have you had a discussion with your ex-wife and one of you says that the other is not listening? Or you walked away totally confused how she got that from what you said? If you have already downed your shot of whiskey, pop open a beer. Here we go.
Many years ago, someone came up with the idea that women were great communicators. Since that time, men have been portrayed as being out of touch with their thoughts and unable to adequately express how they feel. Anyone that has even a passing interest in history knows that may not be entirely accurate. Actually it is bull-crap. Men have historically been very effective communicators, while women are not as in touch with their feelings as they would like everyone to think.
For the last century, industrial women have attempted to describe themselves as emotionally complex creatures that are synched tightly with their mysterious, intricate thoughts. A fraction of women even commiserate that men are bumbling idiots with no clue as to what women need. This misunderstanding has become the basis for the many failed relationships that exist today. These myths are perpetuated in our society by the mass media. But are they true?
Through Darwinian necessity, men have developed a complex communication system. The system evolved from the simple hand signals of cave dwellers up to present day satellites that can communicate instantaneously anywhere in the world. Women have remained in a conversational mode that is somewhat rudimentary. Does that mean one is better than the other? Is this a reason to look down your nose at your lovely ex-wife? Heck, no. It means that we are different and I am about to postulate a possible reason as to why. Drink your beer.
Let us go back 10,000 years ago, when humans existed as hunter-gathers in small communal societies. Who were the hunters? Men. Who were the gatherers? Women. We evolved in the same city but different streets. Same house but different rooms. Men hunted big game for the life-sustaining meat, laden with protein, fats and vitamins. Women stayed behind with the children and gathered berries, nuts and herbs. One may question why women did not go out and hunt while the men stayed back, but that would imply equality between the sexes at a biological level. The biology led to the culture. One look at our physiology tells us men and women are different. A three-year-old could figure that out. Ten thousand years of human cultural history reveal that men and women look, think, and act differently. Men and women are different. So it makes sense to say that we most likely communicate in different ways.
The men went hunting because they are genetically predisposed to hunt. Nature and/or God made them that way. Anyway, hunting is risky business. Men had to interact effectively to hunt; especially for big game like Woolly Mammoths. Getting one of those tusks stuck in you could wreck the whole trip. Communication was important for many reasons; most of which were based on pure survival. Successful hunters had to sneak up on the prey, kill it, carve it up before other animals attacked him, and bring the meat back to their clan. Men with spears that conveyed their intentions to other men with spears were more successful at pursuing and killing their quarry. These triumphant hunters brought the meat back and nourished their families. The men that communicated well had offspring that were well-fed and healthy. Non-communicative, dim-witted hunters scared away their targets. They did not coordinate their attack. These bumbling idiots went hungry. Their children ate infrequently and succumbed to either disease or predators. Or both. Nature selects for certain traits that are beneficial to a species survival. The trait of being an effective communicator was selected as one in human males. Good hunters signaled, and interpreted other’s signals, through a complicated series of grunts, limb movement, head nods, eye cues, and body language. Communication skills were an advantageous trait from an early stage of our evolution. As society became more advanced, history shows that men adapted their communication skills to the new technologies.
Some men made marks on wood, bones, clay tablets, and eventually papyrus, to record and convey their most profound reflections to other men. The recipient of these inspirations could understand what was being expressed and respond back using the same marks. A bunch of guys in Phoenicia developed an alphabet around 3500 B.C. Around the same time, Sumerian men invented cuneiform writing; pictographs of accounts written on clay tablets. These fragments of intellect were forwarded to each successive generation. Some fellows painted their ideas on walls. The Age of the Written Word was dawning. The use of smoke signals allowed men to express their intentions over great distances. Communicating ideas became a male trait.
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Meanwhile, women stayed back and raised the children. They waited for the men to return from the hunt- and later the expedition or the Crusade. They filled their hours with discussions. Those discussions centered around men because their men ensured the survival of the female and her offspring. To summarize succinctly, men and women learned to communicate in very different ways. Drink your beer.
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Smoke signals, hand signals, facial expressions, arm movements, symbols written on paper, rock and wood. These became the domain of the human male of the species. Men would tell stories of the hunt. Women listened. (Most had no choice.) Gentlemen, we can be quite overwhelming as we brag about ourselves. It was around 776 B.C. when homing pigeons were first used to send messages, scrawled on bits of papyrus, across great distances. Homing pigeons. Little gray birds trained to carry tiny letters across the vast skies. It is overwhelming to intellectualize the magnanimity of such an endeavor, one animal training another to carry messages indecipherable, and incomprehensible, to the carrier. Yet, human males had successfully undertaken this advance in the exchange of ideas. There is no record to indicate that women ever used pigeons, or any other type of early transmission technology. From that pivotal point in history, men extensively recorded their thoughts in scrolls; eventually storing these scrolls in great libraries. The knowledge base became more than male bravado. It became history. It chronicled the adventures of individual men melded with narratives from the experiences and philosophies of other men. Men communicated thoughts beyond the simple intentions of a hunter about to throw his spear. It was the birth of civilization; signed, sealed and delivered by the communication skills of male human beings. Drink your beer and stop talking out loud while you’re reading.
Before we get too far ahead here, let us not leave women in the Stone Age. What were women doing while men were developing these communication systems? From the early cave days, women were developing a communication system amongst themselves. Picking berries and caring for children did not lend the brain to the intellectual pressures necessary to leap forth and advance intricate communicative abilities. Women spoke, and gesticulated, mainly to each other while their men were away. What were the topics of discussion during those long days of gathering berries? Watch out for the unripe berries? There is a bug on my berry? Do not touch my berries? Women quickly bored of these discussions. There was no ‘pressure’ for varied communication techniques to evolve. If a saber-toothed tiger appeared each women would save herself and her children. It was actually a survival advantage if the saber-toothed tiger filled his belly with another women or her children. Meow. Think about that for a minute. Survival as cave people had a lasting effect upon our collective psyches. (A sip of beer is optional here.)
Women also competed with each other for their share of the kill. As history progressed and men ventured out more and more, this ‘kill’ could have been the booty from a war. Or the gold from a Crusade to the Middle East. When the men came back from their jaunt, each woman was given their share according to her husband’s rank in the group. The alpha male received the most, as did his wife and children, and so on down the line. Sound familiar? In a scenario such as that, talking may not be a way of finding solutions, but of obtaining information. Could it be that women evolved a communication system that obtained as much information as they could on other women? Maybe even to the point of deceiving the other woman about her status? If a woman could convince the others that their husband was not worth appropriating would she not solidify her place in the clan? Is this why women spend a fair amount of time bashing their husbands and boyfriends? Has this behavior has carried forth into modern society? Consider the following conversation from 10,000 years ago. (I have taken the liberty to translate ancient cave dialect.)
Wilma: ‘Your husband always brings home a lot of meat.’
Betty: ‘That may be true, but he never does anything with the kids. And he snores. Plus, he is always working on his spear...’
Wilma: ‘ I hear ya, sister. Mine is always hanging out with his brother. They sewed some old skins into a ball and go out to the field to throw it back and forth. How boring.’
Betty: ‘Where are all the good cavemen?’
Wilma: ‘Beats me.’
Throughout the last 10,000 years men and women have developed a completely different communication system. Although men and women used the same language to obtain information, the interpretation was different. A man transferred information that assured his immediate survival and position in society. Women transferred information that assured her long-term survival and position in society. A man needed a quick answer. Was the deer behind the rock? Yes or no? Women needed to know that their dear would rock their world and provide for her and the children. Both systems work but are subject to misinterpretation by the opposite sex. You think I am full of shit? Huh? Ever try to solve a problem posed by your ex-wife?
The hapless husband, in his endeavor to solve his ex-wife’s problems, is oblivious to one simple fact. She does not want a solution. She just wants to talk. Talking allows her to garner information and feel close to him. He thinks she wants a legitimate solution. What she wants is to get more mileage out of the problem so he will continue to talk to her. She wants to involve him in her world but does not know how. So she subconsciously perpetuates a problem. When hubby actually solves the problem, the conversation is over. Women like to talk. It soothes them. The last thing a woman wants is for the conversation to be over. Sorry to be so stark and frank on that one. Eventually, men get frustrated and make a decision. Decision-making ends the interaction. Maybe this is why decision-making is not a strength of human females. It was not naturally selected for over the course of our cultural evolution. Women tend to avoid making decisions by chatting endlessly about a situation. Unable to make clear decisions she becomes frustrated and lashes out at her husband. She pouts and complains. He will be punished subsequently by the ‘silent treatment’, withholding of sexual favors or, my personal favorite, the classic slamming of the cabinet doors. This behavior continues until he kisses up to her and makes her feel safe again by cuddling and making cooing sounds. And talking. Women are calmed by this actions. The man leaves confused and bewildered at this irrational behavior. After all, she approached him with the problem. Sound familiar? Drink your beer before your blood pressure goes up.
This disparity in spoken language is part of the reason that women differ from men intellectually. They do not connect the dots the same way that men do. By nightfall in caveman time, the men were back at camp, describing (with embellishment) the story of the hunt. Women languished in the verbal relations department because their situation did not call for them to transfer their day to the group’s consciousness. Maybe there lingers some jealousy there…
For years, women have been credited with higher verbal skills than men. Studies have suggested that female human beings possess higher verbal and linguistic skills than males. However, history tells us a different story. When asked to identify great speakers names like Patrick Henry, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Franklin Roosevelt, Martin Luther King, John F. Kennedy, Malcolm X, Abbie Hoffman, and Ronald Reagan come to mind. Not just great speeches but great quotes seem to reside in the male half of the species. Consider some of the following:
‘There is nothing impossible to him who will try.’ - Alexander the Great
‘I came, I saw, I conquered.’ - Julius Caesar
‘Turn the other cheek.’ - Jesus Christ
‘There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.’- Franklin D. Roosevelt
‘Some men see things as they are and say, 'Why?' I dream of things that never were and say, 'Why not?’ - George Bernard Shaw
‘Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.’ - John Kennedy
‘Why do I fight? Because I can’t sing or dance. Yo!’ –Rocky Balboa
‘This is one small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind.’ -Neil Armstrong
The list goes on. And for the women? Those beings that have been credited with the premier knowledge of human verbal interaction? It is tough to find a quote that comes from a famous woman. Well, there is usually only one universal quote attributed to womankind. That, of course, is Marie Antoinette’s famous line, when told that her countrymen had no food, she so eloquently said,
‘Let them eat cake.’
So where are the verbal skills that women allegedly possess? Why are they as notoriously absent from everyday conversation as they are from the literary record? Are you drunk enough now to hear what may be the truth? If not take a long gulp (or throw this book in the trash!). Ponder the idea, for argument’s sake, that women are able to express themselves verbally on a higher level than men. The undying need of the human spirit is to be heard. Right? Has there been a worldwide conspiracy for the last 10,000 years designed to keep women, ‘in their place’. Plausible? I don’t think so. How about another reason? Women feel better about themselves than men do. They accept their role in society. They are so happy with who they are that they do not feel the need to stand up at the campfire and brag about their exploits. They listen to you go on and on about the office, the hunt for Mastodon, or the conquest of the New World, and they don’t say anything. They just listen. They don’t compete, they don’t try to outdo you. They listen. They cheer you on. Go get ‘em, Sparky! They feel good when you feel good. They are sad when you are sad. They understand that they have an indispensable role in society and they don’t argue this role. They are different than men and they are okay with that. What a crock! I was just screwing with you. Drink up and let’s get back to reality.
So, is there a conspiracy to keep women down? I don’t think so, at least not a conspiracy in the true sense. But it is the nature of men to out-talk, out-perform and generally out-do women. We like to impress women but somewhere along the line men went from impressing women to subjugating them. Maybe we thought that we had to keep impressing them or they would leave us. We are threatened by it. Most women can’t outrun you, lift more weights than you do, or beat you in video games. And the ones that can? Well, you can’t stand those dykes now, can you? Sorry, I went off again. Now, let’s get back to our story.
Girls are tested at a young age on words that they pick up from their teacher. While young boys are fighting the urge to explore the playground, young girls are happy to sit and listen to what the female teacher has to say. When the ‘verbal’ test is administered, the young girls are able to score higher because they simply have a better vocabulary than boys. They have an advantage over boys because girls read at a younger age than boys do. For years, it was thought that reading was a skill of identifying visual symbols. However, recent educational research has proven that reading is actually a process of hearing, not seeing. The structure of the female brain gives females an advantage in hearing. Hearing and learning new words take place in a special region on the left side of the brain. With the spoken word, the female clearly has the advantage. Boys are better at repeating and identifying the sounds of animals and cars. This may be the result of the adaptation to hunting while the male mind was evolving. Girls have the center of their brain adapted for words. Young girls seek the approval of their mentor so they try harder than young boys do. Boys are busy trying to find a way to release the pent-up energy that sitting in a seat all day long has brought them.
While men depended on their communication skills for their very survival, there was no impetus for the evolution of female communication skills. Women just did not need to converse that much to get their point across to their comrades. The line of reasoning is that women do not communicate well because they never needed to communicate well. The female brain thinks in multiple directions when asked a question. Some of these directions are even contradictory to each other. They think about each outcome to the point that they do none of them. In contrast, a man will focus his energies on one outcome; learning alternative methods from his mistakes along the way, but sticking to the one focused goal that he has set for himself. This type of thinking reflects in the basic differences between male and female communication. Women will say one thing, while thinking something totally different. This leaves the male perplexed. Maybe it was meant to. She said yes- but meant no. On the other hand, did she say no -but mean yes? No. What? Drink your beer.
Remember, she is not only speaking differently than you, she is interpreting what you say poles apart from what you mean. Here is an example of such an interaction. I have attached the thought pattern in italics.
Happy Husband: Dear, what do you think about a movie tonight? (I would like to go to the movies.)
Wonder wife: That sounds good. (I really do not want to go to the movies tonight. What will I wear?.)
Happy Husband: What do you feel like seeing? (I really want to know what she wants to see.)
Wonder wife: Oh, I don’t care. Whatever you want. (He had better pick a movie that I want to see.)
Happy Husband: What about that new war picture, I heard it is pretty good. (It should be an interesting movie.)
Wonder wife: That sounds good. (Oh God, I cannot sit through another war movie!)
Sound familiar? Women can communicate their feelings to other women. When it comes to communicating their feelings to men, women and men do not connect. She does not want to hurt your feelings. Men become frustrated because they do not understand the vocal strategies of women. Here is another example. Jason C. is an architect living in western North Carolina.
‘I do not understand my wife. I am beginning to learn how to deal with it-but it is still very difficult to deal with her behavior. Whenever my wife is upset, she just stops talking to me. That would be fine but she stomps around the house - pounding her feet on the floor, slamming the doors just loud enough to be irritating, and cleaning or vacuuming in the room that I am sitting. This behavior will continue until I ask her what is wrong. Of course, she never answers me unless I ask at least three times. The first answer I get from her is ‘nothing’ as she stomps out of the room. She returns a few minutes later, increasing her banging and excessive cleaning. I do not mind the cleaning, but it is only a matter of time before she breaks something. She does other stuff that is so childish- like not answering the phone or the door if someone knocks. I finally have to ask her a couple of times what is bothering her before she begins to fumble for the words to find. After much ado about nothing she finally tells me what is wrong. I have tried for years to get her to get in touch with her feelings, but I haven’t got anywhere. I just deal with it a lot better now than I did when we were first married.’
When a man is upset with his spouse he approaches her and explains what exactly it is that is bothering him. This may not happen in each relationship, but it is usually a characteristic of men to be direct and up front about their feelings. When a woman is upset with her spouse, Jason C.’s scenario is common. When upset, female humans usually close themselves off verbally, stomp around the house, and resort to slamming cabinets, doors, etc. One man reports that his ex-wife moved furniture every time she was upset. After rearranging the house five times in the first few months of marriage this guy caught on. It is not that men are not perceptive. It just takes them a little longer to understand. Drink your beer before I get into body language.
In a recent study men and women were shown pictures of models that were trying to show different emotions using their facial expressions. There was a difference in the determination of the emotions in the facial expression. Although there were similarities in the interpretation of the facial expressions, there were many deviations. As a group, women were more sensitive to happy faces than men were. However, men were more sensitive to sad expressions in another man’s face than were women. And by contrast, men were less sensitive to sad faces in other women. A women’s face had to be very sad before a man noticed. The study suggests that women are not as sensitive to the facial expressions of men as men are to other men. Interesting?
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Men have had a dual role in society for the last 10,000 years. The first is to advance society. To increase the ways that thoughts and ideas are transmitted to other men for the betterment of the species. The second is to gain favor with a woman. Most men say that they are one out of two. Has the point been made? Men and women have developed a complex communication over the millennia; it is just not with each other. But why? Are the sexes that different? Are there physiological differences that make men and women almost separate species? In our next chapter, we will examine the reasons for this difference. How many beers did you drink?
Finish your beer and stop hating your ex-wife.
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Our Brains are Different
Appetizer
Jose Cuervo Tequila
Main Course
Yuengling
It is widely accepted today that the brain is the ‘command center’ of the body. One of the main functions of the brain is to interpret signals from the outside world and respond appropriately to those signals. What we hear, see, taste, smell, and touch is all filtered through our brain. Experience tells us what to do with the information. Some experiences tell us what not to do. Our grasp on reality is directly related to our brain’s interpretation of our surroundings. Could you imagine what would happen if our brain did not send the signal to remove your hand from a hot stove? Or if your ancestors did not run from that saber-toothed lion? Each one of us is the outcome of millions of years of natural selection; and for humans that means natural selection for intelligence. The smartest brains interpreted the world in a manner that would allow the owner to live, bear young, and raise the young to an age where the young could successfully reproduce. What constitutes the human brain? The brain is a grayish mass of neurons, synapses, and various biological compounds. Are the male and female brains the same? Despite what champions of the Women’s Liberation Movement want you to think – no, they are different. Very different. This difference begins while humans are embryos in the uterus and continues well into senescence. It is the knowledge of these differences that will help The Drinking Man understand women.
Human beings have been researching the brain for thousands of years. Cave paintings show holes being bored in the skulls of cave dwellers from Neolithic times, around 9000 years ago. In addition to the mystical reasons of letting out bad spirits; scientists hypothesize that early man performed this procedure to cure everything from migraines to epilepsy. Hippocrates detailed the practice of brain surgery throughout Greek history. The Incas practiced brain surgery; skeletons of some Incan skeletons actually showed healing of the bone (which indicates the patient survived the procedure). Leonard Da Vinci’s extensive collection of brain drawings chronicled awareness of the brain in his time. Vivisectionists and physicians of the Dark Ages cleared the way for today’s knowledge of brain function. Stories such as Frankenstein showed the interest in the brain and its effect on behavior during the nineteenth century. Sigmund Freud, B. F. Skinner, and others provided the basic behavioral studies of the brain that college kids study today. The U.S. Army used unwitting soldiers in its experiments in the 1940’s and 1950’s on the effect of different hallucinogens on human behavior. Popular research in the 1960’s and 1970’s consisted of studying the behaviors of people that had suffered various types of brain damage. The damaged part of the brain was linked to the intellectual deficiencies in the injured person. Drink your beer.
There are a few standard methods that scientists rely on to show brain function and physiology. One classic method is tomography. Tomography is the slicing of the brain into thin sheets (sort of like roast beef at the deli counter). In the old days scientists had to discolor the sliver with a variety of messy stains to bring out the various morphological aspects of the brain. Scientists stared through a microscope at these discolored slides to observe the slightest brain variance. Now, with computer-enhanced imaging, the slices can be fed into a computer and colorized, polarized, digitized, leaving the scientist mesmerized with an enhanced image to study. These images can be defined according to the areas of the brain, types of cell, numbers and forms of neurons, information on nerve cell connections and various other attributes. The image can be analyzed for cell thickness, region thickness, and volume. This information is used to tell the difference in male and female brains. This method is somewhat invasive and can be deleterious to a living subject because the brain must be removed and sliced into sections to obtain results. It’s hard to get over that. Techniques that are more modern include non-invasive functional imaging processes such as PET (Positron Emission Topography) MRI (Magnetic Resonance Imaging) and/or Brain Topographic Electroencephalography.
The latest techniques that scientists use to study the brain are a type of three-dimensional x-rays. The MRI can follow where the blood is flowing in the brain when a question is asked of, or a task assigned to, the subject. Therefore, the specific part of the brain a person uses to think is determined by following blood flow into that particular region of the brain. In both PET and MRI, analysts can see where the brain is processing information by following the biological systems of the brain. During these tests, a radioactive tracer is injected into the subject and the specific machine utilized catalogues the movement of the tracer. The camera records the pictures and turns them into an image for the researcher to examine. In some cases, the PET and the MRI are used in conjunction with each other to verify and enhance the results from either device. The beauty of the non-invasive techniques is that you can use them to image how men and women(live men and women!) think. The technology allows researchers to follow the thought processes as the subjects perform tasks, calculate mathematical problems, answer questions and solve problems of every sort. These techniques are used to document the differences in thinking between men and women when performing similar actions. (Any man has spent more than an hour with a woman, realizes that there is a difference in the way the two sexes think. But scientists have given the idea credibility.) Using PET, blood flow to the brain can be measured while a person is conscious and awake. When a subject is thinking, the blood flows to the part of the brain that is being utilized for the thought process. PET scans follow the amount of glucose uptake in the brain. Remember that the subject must be injected with a radioactive marker for the specific device to read the results. Simply put, the part of the brain that is absorbing glucose is the area of the brain that is being used. Total blood flow to the brain increases during cerebral exercise. For example, while a person is undergoing a PET scan he or she is asked a question that requires a verbal response. The blood flows to the left side of the brain. If the person is asked a task that requires them to picture something in three-dimensional space the blood flows to the right side of the brain. This is a generalization for the human species. In reality, males and females, when asked the same question, will use different parts of their brain to respond to the same inquiry. This manner of thinking begins early in the development of a human being. It begins while the person is still an embryo. Let us look at early fetal development and then support our theories with the results from the new technologies of MRI and PET computer assisted imaging.
Drink your beer. (Isn’t science wonderful?)
Sex differences in the brain begin in the uterus. As soon as their testicles are developed, a male embryo begins producing testosterone. The testosterone molecule will attach itself to brain tissue, making the brain different than the developing female embryonic counterpart. The male embryo is totally ‘masculinized’ around the fifth month of pregnancy. Israeli Scientists Reuwen and Achiron have found that if you do an ultrasound examination when a woman is five months pregnant, you can distinguish a female brain from a male brain. A huge testosterone surge that begins around the seventh week changes the neural network. The neurons are laid down differently in males than females. The brain cells form separate patterns in different parts of the brain in males than they do in females. Men have more neurons, the brain is bigger, and there are more connections between the neurons. The effect of testosterone change is permanently welded on a males’ brain. Research shows that the male brain will not revert to its former female state after this initiation has taken place. The change is irreversible. If male rats are castrated in later life, they still cogitate like other intact males. This may be why the eunuchs of Rome enjoyed their job. After masculinization, the male brain is the male brain even in the absence of testosterone. In one experiment, scientists tried try to reverse the masculinization of the newborn brain. Professors Mack, Given, et al, delivered laboratory rats by Caesarean section and castrated the males immediately (talk about a slap to get you breathing!). Even though he was no longer producing testosterone, the castrated rat's brain remained masculinized throughout life. Therefore, the differences in male/female thinking remain throughout life. The effect of testosterone has changed the Drinking Man forever. Now he must understand what these differences are so that he may understand his female companions. Drink your beer.
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Long before they are born, men think like men. Women think like women. In a study led by Richard Haier, Professor of Psychology at the University of New Mexico, Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) pictures of the brain were used to determine morphological differences between the male and female brain. Haier deems that the differences noted in his study show that the human brain has evolved into two separate brains. The male brain and the female brain. Creationists usually take the same stance. When God created Eve why did he change the mold? Was it to improve upon an earlier design? Or to make it different? Evolutionists and Creationists agree on very little. One thing they do agree upon is the difference between male and female thinking.