Heated Exchanges: An Empowered Woman's Guide to Phone Sex for Fun and Profit
By Eve Ambrose
1 Introduction to Phone Sex Work
The Secret World of Phone Sex
In the titillating world of the Information Age, phone sex provides a type of virtual intimacy, a safe haven for secret fantasy. Delve deep into your own mind and you're sure to find some dark desire you’d never share with a lover. But would you tell a stranger if you thought you'd never meet him? The seductive quality of the forbidden drives whispered confessions from the souls of man. What better way for a girl to make a living than by listening to their fantasies and sharing a few of your own secrets along the way?
In this era of solitude, people search for new and novel ways to reach out. No matter what your kink or lack thereof, you can find someone who shares it on the WWW. Amidst the sites selling hardcore porn, xxx movies and sex toys, you’ll find the erotic telephone entertainers. We sell intangible sex, a fantasy. We’re always ready and horny, never have a headache and never judge. We wait in negligee eager to touch ourselves for your pleasure. We talk about anything you want, anytime you want and we’re only a phone call away. Is it any wonder men are sucked into such an alluring world?
The stigma of all things sex fades daily... to the despair of some, but such liberation of inhibition provides something else entirely to lots of smart and web savvy women. The world’s oldest profession might be illegal now, but luckily for the ladies who talk dirty for money, sharing heated exchanges via telephone isn’t. A creative and inventive PSO (phone sex operator) can make upwards of $100, 000 per year working from home. Phone sex no longer hides in dingy back rooms full of cubicles. Between diaper changes, laundry and homework, women from all walks of life are making a good living from the privacy of their own bedrooms.
After working in the corporate world I became disenchanted with my earning potential, the dependence on bureaucracy and lack of freedom in my working hours. I cashed out my 401K in 2001 and became an erotic entertainer... and I never once looked back. I’m a nice, normal woman. You’d never expect I’m a phone whore... that’s what I find so alluring about the business. Not only do I help men fulfill their innermost desires, I make good money in the process. I wrote this ebook to help those who’d like to join the ranks of phone sex entertainers and provide clear, helpful advice that comes from years of experience.
2 The PSO Work FAQ
So you are thinking about becoming a phone sex operator, are you? Good for you! Working as a phone sex operator (PSO) can be very fun and exciting. However, just because you are working from home doesn't mean that you can start goofing off. It is a job, just like any other, and needs to be taken seriously. In this article I will try and answer some of the most common questions that are asked by those thinking of becoming a PSO.
What is a Phone Actress/Actor?
Looking on the internet you might see advertisements for people hiring phone actresses. A phone actress or phone actor is just another name for someone who is a phone sex operator. Some prefer to think of their jobs as acting, which in many cases it is. Often in this line of work you are saying and describing things that you make up on the spot.
What Do Phone Sex Operators Do?
The job of a phone sex operator can be summed up rather simply: you talk of a sexually graphic nature to people who call. Calls usually start off pretty normal with 'hello,' there is an exchange of information such as name, looks, hobbies, the talking gets a little flirty, it heats up to the point where you talk about what you would like to do to each other, the callers orgasm, and the call is over with.
What Type Of People Call Phone Sex Lines?
Many different types of people call phone sex lines. The typical caller is usually a male (only a hand full of calls a year will be female) and range in age anywhere from nineteen to sixty. Sometimes you will get callers and their male or female lovers. Often there will be people who will call when the are under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol. Some callers are lonely and just looking for someone friendly to chat with and not talk about anything sexual at all. Then there are callers who will want to skip over talking and flirting and just want to get into graphic sex talk as soon as possible. People who call phone sex lines aren't ugly, unsuccessful, living in their parent's basement, can't get sex any other ways, or any other stereotype. They are you're average every day people who are looking to spice up their sex lives, explore new fetishes, and find a new and exciting way to have some safe sexual fun.
Who Should Be A PSO?
Anyone! Most people might think of 18-35 year old females as the only people who can become PSOs, but this is far from the actual truth. Some companies employ women who are well into their 70s and 80s for men who like older women. While most men do seem to like younger women, any woman who sounds younger can be a phone sex operator. Men can also work as PSOs as well; however, they are mostly limited to taking calls on gay or bisexual lines due to the fact that women do not tend to call phone sex lines. There are straight men who work as gay PSOs just for the money. They are not actually gay themselves; this is just acting on their part.
How Much Money Can I Make? / Can I Make X-amount?
Nobody can really tell you how much money you are going to make as a PSO. There are too many variables that go into determining a PSO's pay. The company's pay scale, what type of company they are, how much time you put into it, and how many calls you took are the three big factors. Working as a PSO is NOT a get-rich-quick job. A new PSO working for a dispatch company can look to make anywhere from 0-800 a week.
What Type Of Companies Are There?
There are mostly two different types of companies: dispatch and trolling. With dispatch the company advertises (either online, print, or both) for callers and routes calls anonymously to you. With direct dial companies, you are provided little to no customers and are expected to do much of your own advertising (trolling) for customers. Direct Dial companies do require more work and calls are less frequent until you build up a loyal repeat customer base, but they tend to pay more. I address the differences in Chapter 3
What Company Should I Work For?
Nobody can tell you want company to work for. There are many different ones out there, each with their own pros and cons. A company that might be fantastic for one person, might not work well for another. The best thing to do is get in contact with the company and ask them questions. If they sound like a great company to you, use the search feature on the board to get some general feedback on them from some other people. A company that doesn't pay on time, has temperamental staff, or just an overall bad reputation will be mentioned on the boards. If you can’t find anything mentioned about them, ask the board.
How Do I Find PSO Work?
If you want to get hired for a PSO job you first need to apply with a company. Many companies and links to their websites are posted on PSO Support (http://www.psosupport.com). Check out their website and look for an employment section or contact section. I’ve listed several companies I know to be reliable in the Networking and Job Listing, Chapter 12.
What Questions Should I Ask A Company Before Starting With Them?
Remember, you are just as much interviewing a company as they are you. You want to make sure that the company you go with will be the best company to suit your needs. Some basic common questions to ask are:
- Are you direct dial, combination or dispatch?
- How many hours am I required to be logged in?
- How much do you pay? / Where can I find a copy of your pay scale at?
- How do you pay?
- How often do you pay?
- Can I check my call statistics online?
- Are you a taboo company?
- Will I have to run a customer's credit card?
- Do you have a system that automatically disconnects call when the time is up or will I need to watch a clock and inform the caller when the time is up?
- Do you have set or flexible schedules?
- Are characters provided or do I make up my own?
- Do you allow tips or gifts?
- Do you provide training?
- Do you have hold times?
- How far into a call before the hold time starts to count?
- Can I work with other companies?
- How do you handle charge backs?
- Is this a call back company or am I given my own extension number?