Turn Me On
How To Attract A Man
Darren G. Burton
Published by Darren G. Burton at Smashwords
Copyright © 2010 Darren G. Burton
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Information was gathered for this book through conducting numerous surveys and interviews; with men being the particular focus. Women have certainly offered their viewpoints as well. Added to this is some common knowledge learnt over time and the author’s own personal experiences.
No material in this book is meant to be offensive in any way. The advice and information on offer can either be taken on board to produce positive results in your life, or ignored if you so choose.
Every effort has been made by the author to write this book in an unbiased and objective manner. However, it should be noted that it is virtually impossible to communicate any information and points of view without any bias present whatsoever.
The information in this book is somewhat general in nature, and the author acknowledges the fact that individuals and personal circumstances vary.
Whilst this book’s content is primarily aimed at women, men can certainly benefit from it as well.
How to attract a man?
This question has no doubt been asked by women the world over for centuries.
The truth is, there is no single one way – or right way – for a woman to attract a man. Although men and women have inherent traits that generally apply to each gender, at the end of the day we are all individuals. What works for one woman may not work for another. Likewise, what appeals to one man won’t necessarily appeal to a different guy.
It’s all about knowing yourself and what you truly and honestly want and need in a partner and for yourself.
This book touches on points that will definitely appeal to the vast majority of the male population, as well as help the reader get to know themselves better and define what they really want for themselves, in a man and in a relationship.
Using this book as a general guide will greatly increase your chances of not only attracting a man into your life, but help you to attract the right man.
This section of the book has been dealt with first because without truly knowing yourself and what you want, how can you successfully go about attracting a man into your life? The right man.
About You is designed to get you thinking about yourself, knowing yourself better and to learn more about what you want for you and in a partner.
Know Yourself And What You Want
Often we go about our lives, in one facet or another, without really, truly knowing our hearts desires. What’s best for us, or what we actually want, need and what will ultimately make us happy. Life’s experiences tends to teach us more about ourselves over time, but if we take the time to analyze and look a little deeper into ourselves we can usually figure a lot of it out sooner rather than later.
Many of us are guilty of bouncing from one relationship to the next, simply because we don’t know ourselves properly and end up being involved with the wrong partner. At first we wouldn’t have really known they were wrong for us (or us for them) until we got to know our partner better. Things start to feel out of sync. It isn’t really working out and we start to ask ourselves why? Often we won’t really know why it’s not working. We just know it isn’t. This is because we don’t really know ourselves and what we are really looking for.
Take time out to learn about yourself first; figure out who you are, where you want to be and exactly what it is you want.
Try writing out two lists.
The first list should be about yourself. What are your plans? What type of person are you? What are your strengths and weaknesses? These are the type of questions you should ask yourself.
The second list should be a general list of what you would like to find in a man. What kind of person would he be? What type of job would he have? What are his goals and ambitions in life and love?
Although no list of attributes for a potential partner should be adhered to rigorously, it does give you some sort of a guide as to what to look for, as well as imparting a better understanding for yourself of what you want, like and need.
Your Likes And Dislikes
What we like and dislike can change over time. As we grow older and our tastes mature, we often find we like things we didn’t like when we were younger, and vice versa. The same can happen in our relationships.
What you may have liked or found cute in a partner when a teenager will invariably be different to what appeals to you in your twenties and thirties. Teenage romances, despite vows between the partners of undying love, tend to fizzle out as both people mature. There are exceptions to this of course, but that is generally what happens.
Once we have grown into adulthood we tend to have a better sense of ourselves, and a more stable idea of what appeals to us and what doesn’t.
It’s good to have a firm grasp on what it is that you like and desire, and what has a tendency to turn you off. Knowing this about yourself – and much of this is determined by life’s experiences – will give you a better understanding of the right kind of partner for you and the level of compatibility needed to make the relationship work.
Never take too rigid a stance though, as you may close the door on new and wondrous opportunities and experiences that you never knew existed before.
Your Good Points
It’s important to know what is positive about yourself. We all have our good points; areas of strength, likeable facets of our personalities and depth in our character.
Do you know what your good points are? What things do you really like and admire about yourself? Can these good points be made even better so they could be considered exceptional? Have you ever written down your positives on a sheet of paper to see just how many there really are?
Although it’s never a good idea to boast about what’s good concerning you, it is important that you have a strong sense of, and recognition of, your strengths. After all, you are a very important person - both to yourself and those around you.
Feel good about yourself. Regularly remind yourself of your good points in a grounded manner. This will produce a sense of confidence that others will pick up on and be drawn to.
Your Flaws
Unfortunately we all have these. Not one of us is faultless. If we were we would probably be considered rather anal and somewhat boring.
It is not good or healthy to dwell on your personal faults. However, it is important to be aware of them nonetheless.