Natalia Levis-Fox
Secret of Healing Jealousy
Copyright 2010 by Natalia Levis-Fox
Smashwords Edition
The Secret of Love & Sexuality is yours. That is why this book is a simple and elegant solution to your problem of jealousy. You feel good, nice and healthy. When you decide to create any quality and make your life a fantastic adventure, apply the Love Formula. Fill its components with desired features, sing the formula for several days and you get what you want!
If you are a therapist, psychologist, coach or trainer, working with groups or consult people individually, this book provides you with all the necessary concepts, illustrations, methods and exercises to fill your classes/ lessons/ trainings with pleasure, joy and success. You are free to order slides and concepts for your classes [1a].
The concepts of this book together with scientific research results are so human, that you can easily apply them in every type of audience:
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parents
students
teenagers
doctors
patients
teachers
psychologists
therapists
workshops,
etc.
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The three of my books:
“How to Create Love”
“The Love Formula”
“The Secret of Healing Jealousy”,
are complimentary & closely interconnected. They prepare your intelligence for another important project.
“How to Look Younger”
Due to ancient concepts and methods, you will enter the Powerful Divine Source of Life to be always beautiful, fresh, talented, strong and inspired. Follow the news!
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Foreword
Just before sending the manuscript of this ebook to the Publisher, one thing became pretty obvious. I haven’t made a single mistake in my life up to this moment, except for spelling. I don’t steal, I follow the street traffic rules and I never kill or rob people in the streets. So why should feel guilty for my own way [1] in life? What shall I forgive myself for?
This book is a very simple solution to the “problem” of jealousy due to the Love Formula. I had to develop it for myself to jump off this sticking feeling. So the book is filled with my own knowledge based on personal experience, scientific research and wisdom of those great people who were love and truth seekers like me. It was written to assist YOU in feeling good, no matter what outer circumstances are. One thing I know for sure: jealousy is profitable! It urges you to become better, sexier and wanting more of life.
And it’s is absolutely clear that without love and sex intelligence you are nothing but a primitive pig. Look at the image below.
Eating-being
You can be a highly paid professional, proud of your achievements, yourself and kids, social status and on, and on, and on.
But without physical love and sexual physical energy you are empty like this empty dress.
There is a dress, but there is no YOU to make this dress beautiful. Or does the dress make you more beautiful?
You won’t find testimonials here, praising this book, because only silly and primitive people need somebody else’s opinions. Since you are reading these lines, then you’re seeking for intelligence and a high quality of life of a very sexy person. Nobody adores and likes you until you are physically sexy and authentically charming! Age has nothing to do with sexuality and love. Because “age” is just nothing but a foreign concept. It is an idea, shared and supported by people. Do you want to be authentically loved or valued? Then take for granted a very simple formula:
Without sexy energy, intelligence and seeking for challenges your brain stops developing. You become an imbecile. With sexy energy which is the physical feeder of life which we are going to create with you – even your clothes become attractive.
Right?
Without love and sexy energy in your body all your tricks to attract attention are ridiculous.
“I’ll teach you how to live”
Do you recognize anybody who reminds you of this concept? It’s painless, nice and funny with illustrations, is it not?
Chapter I: Without Intelligence You Are an Obedient Social Animal with a Foreign Mind
A strong will
I’m rich, very rich. This wonderful sensation is incomplete without love, sex drive, adventure, and being loved to complete satisfaction. Fortunately, satisfaction is a one-act-process. When you experience it – you are high. Then you forget about it, as your attention shifts to something else. You can’t be happy for 24 hours a day. Long lasting happiness and satisfaction make you stupid.
All my life I was after discovering the secrets of being, meaning of life and getting rid of those garbage concepts, which prevented from being happy. Following this way, I’d made a lot of “mistakes”. This is how my parents made think about my own experience. Those “mistakes” had almost killed me physically. But I’m still alive because I never gave up. I was sure that life is a fight. And I was proud of my will. Fighting and resisting the past unpleasant memories brought physical pain.
I made an extensive scientific research covering spheres of Cognitive Psychology, Neurobiology, Neurophysiology, etc. This is what I’ve found: ‘will’ as “strength” i.e. “a strong will” is the main source of physical pain!
You hold life with a strong will because you’re afraid to loose it!
When you started to cultivate this “strong will”, you were scared to be controlled by somebody else thus preventing any intrusion into your life. You tried to protect your freedom, your inner world and what you loved. Usually this process begins out of desperation due to the desire to be appreciated as well as loved by others. “Will” is a frantic trial to hide the fear to loose what is treasured by each of us.
The horrible aspect of this experience is that we cling to whom we like, love and value. What is worse – we start controlling them ourselves by interfering into their personal space of freedom!
Life flows freely like beautiful clouds in the sky. It never belongs to anybody.
Are we capable of stopping or controlling the clouds?
Life can also be compared to a river filled with a flow of love energy - the cause and the essence of our being.
Being proud of personal control over life (as the vital process of being), weight, face expressions, feelings, sensations, sexuality, love and satisfaction (expressed freely), we practically prevent the flow of vital energy from making us beautiful, handsome and loved.
Will and pride fix old problems like cement. You can easily test this effect immediately.
The power of personal testing
Experiment 1
Take a book (telephone, or any other object) in your left hand. Clench your right hand into the fist and hold it for 30 seconds with the maximum strength.
Then open it. How does it feel? Revealed and relaxed?
Did you do the experiment immediately? Or did you hesitate before trying? Or did you ignore it?
In each case it was your decision to check or not to test out the truth. The decision to check physically if something is true or false is the expression of your will through the testing system. This testing system belongs to you. If you are not the initiator of checking, testing or investigating physically, then somebody else will do it for you, by ordering. In other words, you will be guided by authorities or gurus, leaders, TV, mass media, advertisements, etc.
Physical world is tested experimentally through sensory systems by touching, smelling, seeing, hearing, tasting. If you don’t test the environment by hearing, smelling, touching, seeing and tasting, your body is weak. If you don’t hear birds singing or chattering, and your feet remember only the comfort of your shoes instead of mud or grass; you see the world through your computer screen and get sexual satisfaction by playing virtual games thought web camera [2] – then your great healthy Nature is sentenced to die. You grow physically old.
Components of the world of intelligence - “mental world” – are tested through dictionaries, encyclopedias by verifying the precise meaning of words, notions and phenomena which you use to understand the outer world and act accordingly. The truth is what makes you feel good.
Did you know that “mind’ is wordless? It’s YOU who knows the words and applies them to express your own ideas, desires in accordance with current situations, i.e. on-line.
It’s YOU who runs your mind. Otherwise somebody else’s mind and foreign checking system would run and influence YOU.
Had it ever occurred to you that you have quite an unlimited number of worlds? Each word you know is the center of a world with a potential of enrichment! You know this owing to your magical nature of mind which expands in the physical external world. Your thoughts are mysteriously hidden from other people. Our thoughts are the shifts between concepts. They never interfere with thoughts of other people inhibiting our Earth. And it’s a generous God’s gift to each of us.
Strategies of winners
Experiment 2
Look at your computer.
You understand “computer” as a physical object, right? You don’t have to imagine computer because you know immediately what “computer” is [3]. You have a well tested concept of computer which you have touched many times. Can you improve your computer immediately? No, if you are not a specialist. But you can either upgrade it or buy a new one. Before buying you recall the image of a better machine that you had seen somewhere before [4].
You start enjoying “having a better computer” What did you do a moment before? - Dreamed with pleasure. Did the dreaming make you feel better? Do you feel like going out in search of the best computer for you all around the city you live in? Or did you search for the best models in Internet to make you feel better?
Going out to find “my best computer” instead of sitting at home and searching in Internet is the strategy of winners. Physically sexy people go out every day in search of potential partners, lovers and pleasure. They notice the best and enjoy the sensation. The sensation keeps you alive and sexy. Did you suspect that pleasure-seeking is absolutely normal? Then your guess was right: seeking for pleasure and better life and environments and satisfaction is the main natural condition of improving spices (Prescott, 1975; Carter, 1998; Bartels & Zeki, 2004; Esch & Stefano, 2004; Salamon et al., 2005).
Winners’ formula
Sitting at home and searching in Internet instead of going out to find “my best computer” or a real partner, lover or a person to enjoy even visually – is a strategy of virtual life.
What kind of kids are you going to give birth to by playing virtual games? Were you born for this kind of life filled with virtual adventures?
Virtual life formula
So, what happened to your mind after reading these lines? - Nothing. Because mind is nothing but an operative system within the outer world of external physical objects and people. What happened to your knowledge? Is it a little bit changed? Enriched by adding two more strategies in your understanding? Did this information drive you to useful conclusions about yourself? Do you feel like changing something in your life?
To give up struggle
Have you ever thought that you head “thinks”? Congratulate yourself with the contrary! It’s YOU who thinks and changes the concepts about yourself and the external world. The head is just the upper part of your body. And brain is nothing but an organ to reflect and conduct your experience in the physical surroundings. You can see the objects, touch them, smell them, eat them, etc. Did you notice how kids put different objects into their mouths until they were prohibited to do so?
Your brain is a hardware conducting your intellectual and physical activities through the body.
Colored lines are nerve fibers connecting different brain structures. They are wires that conduct impulses to execute actions and decisions
You know what? Brain doesn’t think. It never distinguishes between physical and virtual worlds. It’s YOU who does the distinguishing intellectually!
This is how I finally gave the resistance up one day. You know what? The pain disappeared.
“To give up” literary means “to let the resistance and fight go to the upper levels of intelligence”.
When you give up struggle against fear of “being controlled”, you are flying, floating in the love of life. Love is the essence and the high quality of the boundless ocean of life
Flying is better then thinking about power to influence other people, isn’t it?
It’s no use healing or improving the past. Isn’t it time to create your own sparkling authentic intelligence and enjoy life according to your rules? This is how leaders live. They never turn back. Thinking about past is a bad habit like biting nails. The truth is very simple. In order to experience past and suffer habitually, your organism must create earlier period conditions physically. It takes a lot of power.
Intelligence itself is the source of floating because in colored circles you will insert your own concepts of wellness & success
Intelligence is a systematic knowledge about the outer world and how it works, relations including, on the one side. On the other – it’s the competence and skill to apply your knowledge whenever you decide to. Mind, intelligence, information and knowledge have no physical weight, form or a tendency to be stored! Moreover, they have neither physical space nor any activity without YOU. They are nothing without YOU. So it’s YOU who easily changes concepts about yourself and the world.
While you’re reading these comforting lines, beautiful tiny brain cells – microglia – are already repairing neurons damaged by the “fight” against circumstances, unpleasant emotions and what not.
Microglia (red) heal and feed neurons (green) day and night
Do you want more proofs? Go and find the scientifically proved information in Internet which will satisfy YOU completely [5].
Chapter II: Feeling Good
Very useful phrases
We easily recognize when somebody feels good.
Feeling good is obvious
Feeling good is the absolute norm of your quality-being. It’s also the quality-being of the Universe we live in, the Divine, God, Creator or any other concept that you consider as the universal truth for you. Earth itself is a paradise filled with the abundance as the diversity of spices and landscapes. And only we - human-beings- are capable of consciously knowing and understanding when we feel good.
Feeling good is the physical sensation. It is to be cultivated willingly, intentionally, purposely as the desirable and pretty natural on-line experience. Of course, it might take some time and your attention to get used to live in your healthy-being. Easy, isn’t it?
Usually, like everything good in your life, it starts with your single decision.
“I choose to feel good as the healthy-being every moment of my life”
Does it make any sense to you? If it does not, then you’d referred to your old unhealthy concept of future, right? Feeling good refers only to each single moment in the now. Life is living-in-the-now, i.e. on-line.
If you still don’t believe this universal truth, look at the picture below.
Touchy, isn’t it?
Keeping this wonderful and peaceful smile on your face, pronounce [6], sing or murmur this phrase several times with different intonation, pitch of voice (from very low to high and vice verse):
“I choose to feel good as the healthy-being every moment of my life”
…until you “catch” this amazing sensation of feeling good.
Probably you already have the intensifier of your own experience in the form of:
I am very
I am very healthy and sexy (beautiful, intelligent, attractive, etc)
If not, you can easily add it to your experience by training.
The word “very” came from Latin [verax] which means “telling the truth”. The more often you pronounce very useful for you phrases, the better you feel. Why?
Your brain at feeling good
Feeling good has a physical expression in your brain and body due neurohormone of oxytocin. When we have a rewarding experience, oxytocin is released in brain.
Containing oxytocin neuron
These neurons are born everyday in our brain early in the morning. The more often you feel good, being generous, nice and smiling – the more neurons are generated to make you feel good.
Oxytocin is known as the ‘love hormone’ and it:
facilitates sperm transport in ejaculation;
inhibits stress response activity;
oxytocin is a key player in sexual behavior, since it is involved from its start – the process of falling in love – to subsequent outcomes, i.e., off spring;
oxytocin ensures genuine trust, loyalty, devotion and generosity (Zak, Stanton & Ahmadi, 2007, Zak PJ
,
Fakhar A , 2006);mating, i.e., sexual intercourse or sexual stimulation, releases oxytocin and you experience pleasure (Marazziti & Canale, 2004; Esch & Stefano, 2004; Kosfeld et al., 2005; Komisaruk et al., 2008).
'Feeling good' means activating the reward circuit in the brain limbic system. The reward circuit needs to be activated for us with a rewarding experience: to drink water, eat food, make love, strive for goals, take risks, feel optimistic, pet a cat, or hug loved ones. Looking forward to pleasant or exciting experience as well as dreaming about the best, ensures the production of the neurochemical dopamine and the hormone oxytocin. And what do they do? They stimulate release of the body's own 'happy pill' in the form of endorphins to give you a wonderful feeling of euphoria.
Feeling good is not only a healthy pleasant state-of-being. It opens doors to miracles to happen and get what you want effortlessly! When you feel good, only good things are attracted to you. Great, isn’t it?
Change happens slower on the physical plane then on intellectual. That is why “feeling good” is to be cultivated and intensified so that favorable substances released in brain. The more you spend, the more comes to you. For example, the more often you smile when recalling pleasant events, the more often pleasant events occur in your life. This can be done both verbally (“I’m very good at…”) and physically, when your body, hands and legs become involved.
In other words it’s time to form nice habits. These nice habits are going to please you. This in turn, makes you feel good. Because your body, Spirit, Life, Love, Universe, God, Divine, Creator – everything, your own concepts including - is really very, very friendly.
The quickest method of feeling good
If you are at home, stretch your index fingers, stand up and go around your apartment, point at every nice thing in your room, kitchen, bath-room, etc., saying: “IT FEELS GOOD”
You point at every nice thing in your room, kitchen, bath-room, etc., and say: “IT FEELS GOOD”. Joy and pleasure are filling you [7]
When you were a small kid, you were prohibited to touch beautiful and expensive things for the fear to destroy or break them.
This funny method has amazing results: your brain records this invaluable experience with words and actions to your own liking of a grown-up person.
Moreover, you’ll be noticing beautiful things, trifles, animals, plants, flowers and trees in the surrounding environment very much like a highly professional art designer and photographer.
Point at things which you like, and enjoy the sensation
And be sure, absolutely sure that neither depression, nor anxiety will have any place in your life.
Chapter III: New nice habits
“No great thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen."
— Epictetus, Greek Stoic Philosopher
Let’s begin to from and enjoy new nice habits from this moment.
Make the best decision in your life
Make the best decision in your life. It’s about your high quality of life in your own understanding. It must be so complex that is going to include several pleasant things, for instance:
Create a novel and secret name and surname for you. This name will always symbolize the best of you and your own understanding of life.
Decide that since this moment you are going to do whatever you love, eat what you love, say things that you love about yourself, give yourself the best gifts, approve every action you undertook, praise yourself and other people that you like in public or at home.