Before Tying the knot
Questions couples Must ask each other Before they marry!
Roberta Cava
Published by Cava Consulting
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Before Tying the Knot – Questions couples Must ask each other Before they Marry! is a must for every couple contemplating marriage (or those thinking about living together).
This pre-marital workbook is for couples that don’t necessarily have a strong religious affiliation, or do not have access to pre-marital counselling. It is an aide to enhance a couple’s knowledge of how each partner thinks and believes about a myriad of every-day preferences. So neither partner will be influenced by the others answers, there are two sets of 200 questions. Topics in this book also include:
Bride and Groom’s “To Do” lists.
Tips for choosing the perfect wedding gown.
Wedding budget check-list.
Wedding toasts.
Marriage Contracts.
Pre-Nuptial agreements.
Cohabitation Agreements.
Roberta Cava is the owner of Cava Consulting in Australia and has presented her seminars worldwide, including her most popular session: Dealing with Difficult People that has been presented to over 52,000 participants. She is the author of 20 books and will be writing more.
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(21 publishers – in 16 languages)
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Dealing with Difficult Spouses and Children
Dealing with Difficult Relatives and In-Laws
Dealing with Domestic Violence and Child Abuse
Dealing with School Bullying
Dealing with Workplace Bullying
What am I going to do with the rest of my life?
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Survival Skills for Supervisors and Managers
Human Resources at its Best!
Easy Come – Hard to go – The Art of Hiring, Disciplining and Firing Employees
Time and Stress – Today’s silent killers
Take Command of your Future – Make things Happen
Belly Laughs for All! – Volumes 1 and 2
Before Tying the Knot!
Questions couples Must ask Before they marry!
Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
Chapter One: HER PRE-MARITAL QUESTIONS
* Is it “True Love?”
* Pre-Marital Questions
- Our Wedding
- At Home
- Children
- Finances
- My History
- My Personality
- Love & Sex
- General
* Second Marriages
Chapter Two: HIS PRE-MARITAL QUESTIONS
* Same as Chapter One
Chapter Three: WEDDING TIPS
* Bride’s “To Do” List
* Broom’s “To Do” List
* Tips for Choosing the Perfect Wedding Gown
* Wedding Budget Check-List
* Who pays for What?
* Wedding Toasts
* Marriage Contracts / Pre-nuptial Agreements
How to use:
This pre-marital workbook is for couples who might not have a strong religious affiliation, or don't have access to pre-marital counselling. It is a tool for increasing a couple's knowledge of how each partner thinks and believes about hundreds of every-day preferences. (It can also be used by couples that are thinking of living together.)
Chapter One is for her - Chapter Two is for him. There are ten groups of questions, and each chapter contains over 200 questions. So neither of you will be influenced by your partner's answers, it's important that you complete the questions in the chapters before you discuss any of the questions together.
By completing the questions individually first, the likelihood of one partner skipping over crucial issues will be eliminated. After you've completed the chapters, you and your partner may decide to discuss only one group of questions at a time.
I'm sure you'll find many areas where you do not agree - areas that you had never thought of discussing. Best wishes for a successful wedding and a long and happy marriage!
Don’t marry a person that you know you can live with.
Only marry someone that you cannot live without!
INTRODUCTION
It takes most of us many years of training to prepare for our careers, but how much training have you taken to prepare yourself for two of the most important events in your life - choosing a mate and having a family? And how do you really know whether you're in love? What signs show you that "this is the one for me?"
When a couple marry, they leave behind thinking only for and of them-selves, and change most aspects of their existing lives. Now they face life together, united by love, but remaining two distinct individuals. As a couple, you'll confide in each other, depend upon each other, have new responsibilities to each other, create new family ties, develop a stable home, and bring forth the signs of your love - your children.
The main ingredient for a successful marriage, is giving unquestionable trust and love to each other. This means not only sharing ideas, but being open and honest with each other. Couples accomplish this by being in touch with what's really going on inside themselves and being willing to share those feelings with each other. This eliminates manipulation, and results in honest, direct communication.
There are many questions a couple should ask themselves before they take the big step into marriage. Unfortunately, if couples don't have a strong religious affiliation, they often run into a dead end when trying to find someone who will offer pre-marital counselling. Couples are often in for a big surprise, if they neglect to ask each other crucial questions about what they expect out of their relationship.
You can prepare for your marriage by following these steps:
a) Each partner privately answers the questions, which takes one to two hours to complete. Really put some thought to each question. Don't be tempted to answer the way you think your partner would answer. You'll be able to compromise later, but right now these must be your answers!
b) Then meet to discuss how you answered every question. This part will likely take another two or three hours to complete.
c) Then discuss areas of conflict, and make compromises as required.
This process takes time, but it's time well spent. Some might find the answers to questions makes them decide against "tying the knot," but it's better to know now, before promising a lifetime commitment, and ending up in divorce court.