100 Lessons on Personal Attraction
in 100 Words or Less
by Barefoot Doctor and Spencer McCallum
Copyright 2011 Visual Aid Publishing Limited
Published by Visual Aid Publishing Limited at Smashwords
Table of Contents
6. Be interested in others’ stories
7. Acknowledge other’s qualities
30. It’s not what you earn, it’s what you learn
32. Love yourself in the bathroom
42. Don’t let life ambition become a ruthless expedition
44. Be a dance waiting to happen
45. If you regret it, forget it
46. Give up winning and losing and start playing
48. Encourage fate, get a date
49. Have a party piece or special move
54. Visualize yourself beautiful
57. Containment versus nonattainability
60. Flood the space with light
68. Beware of energy thieves, they lurk amongst us
89. Acclaim, not fame, should be your aim
90. You’re never lonely if you like yourself
Smile
Picture a smile of gratitude and joy, simply for being alive, starting all the way down in your pelvic floor, and gradually stretching all the way up to your ears and more. Keep picturing it clearly until you actually start to feel your whole body smiling, not just your eyes and mouth, because when you smile like that, the whole world smiles with you. Others will be drawn toward you and share your joy. Discipline yourself to do this even, and especially, when you’re a little blue.
Breathe
Nothing makes you more attractive than being relaxed. Conversely, nothing puts people off you more than when you’re all stressed and pinched. Nothing makes you more stressed and pinched than holding your breath without realizing it. Stop holding your breath. Let your breath flow slowly and deeply, let your belly swell as it comes in and flatten as it leaves and feel the stress dissolve more with every exhalation. As you breathe in, tell yourself you’re growing more attractive; as you breathe out, radiate your attractiveness far and wide.
Shine
Visualize a bright, burning pinprick of light deep down at the tip of your spine. As you focus on it, see it grow brighter and larger until it simply has to burst upward and stream along the whole length of your backbone up to the crown of your head. See it radiate outward to all parts of your body and further still till it shines through your skin and lights up the space around you until you light up the whole world. Others will be drawn to you like moths to a light.
Emit ‘come to me’ signals
People get scared to approach you when you’re feeling unlovable because you unconsciously emit signals saying, Keep away, keep away! Instead, tell yourself over and over till you start seeing it in your mind’s eye: “I truly do find myself incredibly pleasing in the presence of others.” Because once this belief starts penetrating the deeper layers of consciousness, you’ll automatically start emitting signals saying, Come to me, come to me, you’re going to love it, baby! and others will be only too happy to oblige.
Project a new picture
The world is like a mirror: the inner thoughts and feelings you unconsciously project onto it get reflected back at you—amplified—in daily reality. Believe yourself to be unworthy of the love and approval of others and that belief gets unconsciously projected onto the mirror of life and reflected back in the form of others shunning you. Project the opposite and others are drawn to you instead. Stand before a mirror, look yourself square in the eye and say aloud and with feeling, “When I look in the mirror I like what I see.”
Be interested in others’ stories
Everyone wants a chance to talk about themselves, to be heard, to be seen, to be acknowledged for being somebody. Train yourself to start being more interested in people and the details of their life stories. Get in the habit of asking people searching questions (not prying ones) because you’re genuinely keen to hear about what makes them tick. And be sure to listen carefully, your mind totally focused on what they’re saying rather than on how you will respond. Others will be drawn to you for their succor.