Shame to Fame
Published by Gretchen Netterfield at Smashwords
Copyright 2011 Gretchen Netterfield
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Contents
Chapter 3: How to transform shame
Chapter 4: Identify the real you
Chapter 5: What is a cover up character
Chapter 7: Cover up character examples
Chapter 9: Links and resources
Chapter 1: What is shame
“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” Raymond Hull
Most people feel there is something in their past or present that they don’t want the world to know. Shame is feeling like you have a secret everyone else can see. Trying to cover up shame causes anxiety and feelings of unworthiness and guilt. You are not alone. Shame is unfortunately extremely prevalent.
The fear that others will learn the truth at any moment can be all consuming. Especially in situations where you have to meet someone new. Shame stops people from stepping outside the fear bubble and seeing that unfortunately the vast majority of others in the room are feeling the same way. This means others in the room are thinking “everyone’s looking at me. They can all see the truth.” Or “Nobody else is afraid. It’s just me.”
Shame leads to fear and fear leads to more shame. It’s hard to combat because the anticipation is far worse than the reality. Unless you have the power to read minds you cannot assume you know or can control what others are thinking. But we can control our perception. It is the shame telling you everyone is judging you. It’s not reality. The reality is you have the power to reduce the feelings of vulnerability by changing your shame... To fame.